How I see things can shape my future
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he”Prov 23:7
“There are two great moments in a person’s life. The first is when they are born. The second is when you discover why you were born.” You are what you think you are!
There are lessons in life that sometimes we fail to forget. It is easier to keep on moving through life our way even if our way is not the best at times. We let little things dictate our lives and keep making the same mistakes over again instead of learning from the lessons we are given in life. Setbacks can be set ups for greater opportunities.
Sir Edmund Hillary is famous being the first to climb Mt. Everest. What many do not know is that Sir Hillary did not make it to the top of Everest the first time he tried. The first time was a complete failure. They encountered one problem after another and more than half his climbing party died.
Nonetheless, the British Parliament decided to honour him with some type of award. When he entered the chamber to receive his award, Sir Hillary saw a large picture of Everest had been set-up.
During the standing ovation that he was receiving, he walked over to the picture, shook his fist at it and said,
“You won, this time. But you are as big as you are ever going to get. And I’m still growing.”
We frequently hear the stories of people who have succeeded. And we frequently assume that they succeeded the first time. But it’s the exact opposite.
The road to success is paved with the bricks of failure. When things aren’t going well, treat yourself. Call someone close who will put a smile on your face.
I have control of my destination by the choices I make, there will be obstacles in my journey, but they are challenges for me to gain strength from. I choose my attitude in every situation. This freedom cannot be taken away, it is what makes life meaningful.
If you focus on the negative, you are more likely to experience a negative outcome. If you believe that you can’t, then this is likely to be the case. Yet if you focus on a positive outcome, the chances of this being achieved are significantly enhanced. And even where it isn’t if you adopt a win/learn then you are more likely to maintain an optimistic and positive stance. So, if you think that you can, it is more likely that your mind will focus on achieving what you want. This is often referred to as a ‘self-fulfilling prophecy’. You are what you think you are!
Everyone who breathes, high and low, educated and ignorant, young and old, man and woman, has a mission, has a work. We are not sent into this world for nothing; we are not born at random; we are not here, that we may go to bed at night, and get up in the morning, work for our bread, eat and drink, laugh and joke, sin when we want, repent when we are tired of sinning, raise a family and die. God sees every one of us; He creates every soul for a purpose.John Henry Newman
Your thoughts and energy will determine the outcome. Once you are confident that this is understood ask the following question. Why not me!
Negative examples: I can’t; I shouldn’t; I’m not good enough; I don’t have the energy; I’m hopeless; the situation is hopeless; they would never let us; I’m useless and no good at anything, etc.
Positive examples: I can; I will; it is possible; that interests me; I want to experience that; I want to learn a new skill; I want to have fun and enjoy myself; I like trying new things; anything is possible, let’s give it a try, etc.
Barbara Fredrickson, an American psychologist (and author of a book called Positivity) carried out research around developing a positive mindset and building resilience. This research suggested that resilient and successful people have a positive to negative self-talk ratio of 3: 1 “If you think you can or think you can’t, you will prove yourself right.”
What happens to you does not have to live inside you.
You always have a choice. You can choose to be in a good mood, or you can choose to be in a bad mood. Each time something happens, I can choose to be a victim, or I can choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining, or I can point out the positives, life is all about choice.
What you carry shapes your attitude. Too many people see their future in their past. The rocks that lie beneath the water’s surface determine whether a river runs smooth or rough. What lies inside you determines the attitude you present to the world.
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
“What might you do to make sure you tell yourself more positive than negative things?” “What do you think is meant when we describe people as having strengths?” “What are your strengths?” “Has everyone found at least one strength? Now ask “How can they use their strengths to maintain a positive mindset and to achieve those things they want?”
- Change is inevitable.
We aren’t one to welcome change. We like things how they are because it keeps us safe and inside our comfort zones. Once change happens we tend to have the worst attitude about it. You can complain, do things to twist it into your favour, but in the end change will happen regardless.
- Attitude is everything.
No matter how good you are, if you have a bad attitude then you won’t get very far. Attitude creates long lasting impressions that can last you a lifetime. No one wants to be around someone who is a Debby Downer or a Negative Nancy. It isn’t fun and people lose respect for you.
- Sometimes you have to go back to your roots to see how far you have come.
- It is easy to forget where we came from. Sometimes we believe it is better to leave the past behind because we have progressed far enough to forget it. There comes a time when we have to go back to where we started to see how blessed and lucky we are to be where we are now.
- Friendship is important.
There is something special about having a friend. That person is the one who sees you at your best and they see you at your worst. They believe in you even when you fail to believe in yourself. Friends hold you accountable and they aren’t afraid to be real with you. That is the type of friendship that is important in life.
- Fighting does not solve anything.
Sure, when making impulsive decisions fighting seems like a great solution, but in reality fighting does not fix the situation. It doesn’t even make you feel better because 9 times out of 10 you usually end up with consequences afterwards. Everyone has their differences but fighting with people does not build a stronger relationship especially with your teammates.
- Don’t be afraid to stand out.
Sometimes we shy away from opportunities because we are afraid to be different. People might look at you funny, but what matters is that you are going after something you love. Let your light shine even if it seems a bit out of your comfort zone. It is surprising what happens when you choose to follow your heart instead of letting what people are saying get to you.
- Teamwork is everything.
There is no “I” in team. In order to be successful, you have to work together. The team cannot just pull together without cooperation and passion from everyone. Win or lose they are by your side no matter what and they are there to help you grow to be the best you can be.
- Family isn’t always blood.
Sometimes your family will fail you, but there is a friend who is by your side through the thick and thin. They have your back regardless of what happens to you. Their parents even claim you as their own child. No matter what happens you always have a home with them.
- Colour doesn’t matter.
We often judge people before we get to know them especially if they are of a different culture than we are. We use the stereotypes we know and assume they are the epitome of that stereotype. In reality, colour does not even matter. What matters is what is on the inside. Their character and personality are who they truly are, not their skin tone.
- It is okay to enjoy life.
There is nothing better than being able to be yourself around the people you love. It is okay to be your true self because no one will judge you for it when you are around those who truly know you. Odds are they like seeing you happy and enjoying the life you live. Loosen up and let free a little. There’s nothing wrong to have fun.
It is related of Michelangelo that, while walking with some friends through a street in Florence, he discovered a fine block of marble lying neglected and half buried in mud.
“There’s an angel in the stone,” he explained and straightway went to work clearing off the slime and mire, doing havoc to his holiday clothes. Taking the stone to his studio, he patiently toiled with mallet and chisel and finally let the angel out—in a statue of a beautiful angel.
- You are the architect of your destiny. Every experience in life, health, wealth, poverty, failure or success is the result of actions or purposes you set in motion.
- You have creative power in your life so visualize what you want to achieve so clearly that it becomes imprinted on your subconscious, that will give you the platform to make that dream a reality.
- You have the power to attract all you need to fulfill your dream, as long as you’re willing to pay the price. Hours of practice honing your talent or gift.
- When life presents you with a challenge, it’s up to you to meet it. Whether you fail or succeed is up to you alone.
James Abbott McNeill Whistler was an American artist, active during the American Gilded Age and based primarily in the United Kingdom. He said this about perspective.
See Things or Paint Things
At times Whistler could be severely critical of his student’s efforts. It was during one of these trying periods that a woman student broke slightly and protested, “Mr. Whistler, is there any reason why I shouldn’t paint things as I see them?” “Well, there is no law against it that I know of,” he replied, “but the dreadful moment will dawn when you will see things as you paint them.”